Why women date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on from ancient times. Affairs can be loaded with evils, cause sorrow, and other troubles. In addition you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, finances, age dissimilarity, faith upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, adult dating for merried.
Why do men have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking an affair. I am sure mostly though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is extremely pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You would need to reduce the risk you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest group, very big truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your savings are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, usually the guy is sexually neglecting his lady for a large humber of reasons. As a male I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed apart, our ordinary concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.